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Hair Weaves Tangle Self-Image for Black Women

By Malena Amusa, Women's eNews. Posted February 21, 2007.


By wearing weaves and wigs, black women can become the type of woman society doesn't otherwise expect them to be. But do these counter-identities lead to empowerment or self-loathing?

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This past winter, I noticed something very unsettling while I was visiting my family in St. Louis.

Almost all the black women I encountered were sporting lavishly long hair weaves, fake locks that can add length and volume after being sewed or glued to the scalp. Weaves come in straight, curly and kinky textures. But most black women with weaves wear them to extend and straighten the appearance of their naturally coiled and nappy hair.

Everywhere I turned, from the church to the mall, black women suited up in this straight-hair uniform. Was I missing something? I thought. Would my close-cut Afro set me too far apart from other black women?

Natural, kinky hair -- which is most associated with blackness -- has also been tied to inferiority in the United States. We can thank entrepreneur Madam C.J. Walker, the late 19th century inventor of the hot pressing comb -- literally a comb-shaped iron -- for the subsequent years of black women burning their disobedient hair into submission. Still today among African Americans, there exists a strata between those with "bad hair" and "good hair," the latter being hair that is most in sync with the dominant culture.

Walk into any pharmacy and you'll see a deluge of harsh chemical products that promise black women unnappy hair. Many believe this is a demonstration of self-loathing.

The January 2007 copy of Essence magazine I picked up didn't help. "Look Beautiful in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s . . . Real Women and Celebs Share Beauty and Health Secrets," the cover read. Featured were three celebrities with flowing, bouncy weaves and another woman whose silver hair was visibly straightened to suppress the real curl underneath.

Essence had made it clear: There was no way to be nappy-haired and beautiful at any age.

Myopic Beauty Image

This perplexed me because around St. Louis, so many everyday women who have no celebrity stakes to claim were subscribing to this myopic image of beauty wrapped around these hair weaves that, by the way, can take hours to glue onto the scalp and cost hundreds of dollars.

I wanted to walk in their shoes and understand them, so I decided to get a long, straight wig. Without the labor-intensive process, I achieved the luscious locks of a weave so I could learn what the non-celebrity woman had to gain from emulating the straight hair of non-African woman.

After several days of wearing the wig and interviewing black women, I found that the straight-hair phenomenon has little to do with a need to fit into mainstream social settings. Rather, these long weaves may reflect our desire to try on a different feminine persona that has historically been appropriated for white women.

Throughout time, weaves and wigs have served as costumes for black women to put on when they want to look sexy, such as in the 2006 movie "Dream Girls" that's loosely based on the 1960s rise of the Supremes, a Motown sensation.

In the opening scene of the movie, before the Dreams enter their first big show, they shift their poofy, European-hair wigs around. Finding a perfect fit, they then put on a killer show. As the Dreams become more successful and switch from mostly black to mostly white audiences, their hair get-ups become longer and bigger. The Dreams begin to look like white women in black face. And when one of the members gets kicked out of the band because of her hefty appearance, she quickly reverts to wearing an Afro.


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Malena Amusa is the communications associate at the Oakland-based racial justice Applied Research Center/Colorlines Magazine in New York. More of her work appears at ARC's blog at Racewire.org.

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On style and personal power
Posted by: mindcryme on Feb 21, 2007 1:13 AM   
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As a white man, i believe stylizing oneself--whether it is done to blend in with the powerful, differentiate yourself from them, threaten them, or appease them--always produces a powerful feeling.

I hate wearing suits and ties, but when i make the effort to so--watch out! i am on my game in the office. My message is: I know rules, I did my homework--let's do this thing. I keep my hair shaved short some might say like a punk rocker or a convict--why? b/c it makes me feel tough, especially when i wear jeans and a wifebeater. My message is: Don't eff with me. I got nothing to lose. I pierced my nipple--even though no one can see it thru my shirt the "deviance" of it gives me a strong a sense of personal power, especially in certain social settings. My message, to myself, to my girlfriend: pain don't mean a thing--it even feels good sometimes.

I see people everywhere of all backgrounds style themselves into new personas they believe will provide them access to power--personal, financial, sexual. Especially common is the white suburban "rapper" or suburban "hip-hopper" who dresses like his favorite black rapper, (who by the way, claims to dress like his "homies" in the "'hood." ) This phenomenon is a LOT more common than straight hair weaves in black women, I believe. Does the suburban kid do this to disempower himself? Of course not. The baggy clothes and flat-brimmed ball cap worn to the side make him feel powerful in the mall. He appropriates the power inherent in the myth of black male street thug. Thug Life, right? Tupac carried these very words tattooed on his belly over the image of a machine gun.

It's all semiotics. Clothing and hair styles--tattoos, even gait and speach styles--are codes--extremely complex signs with multiple meanings meant to be "read" by all the different elements of society.

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Bradys
Posted by: kepstein7777 on Feb 21, 2007 3:07 AM   
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Back in the 70's, everybody got an afro, including white males. I mean, who could be whiter than the Bradys? How do you explain that one?

I'd say it's more about style than trying to be white. Straight hair comes and goes. Big hair comes and goes...And Britney's hair is going for 1 million.

If the wig made you feel ditzy, it might be the chemicals in the wig. Now everybody will want one, including me.

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How can I get a hair weave
Posted by: lynnsie on Feb 21, 2007 4:08 AM   
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Something clicked when I read the article tut-tutting about black women who get large hairdos and 'weaves'. Okay I'm out of it, but here's my issue: I am pale white, with an orphan disease which is causing my hair to become rather frail, it does not grow well, and I am shedding like crazy. So when I saw your article, I wondered can this fashion, which obviously damages our self image, help me? I would love to have longer thicker, or just normal tresses. What do they do? Can you wash your hair and keep the 'weave' in. How much does this cost? And oh, yes, can a very pale white woman have it done? Sorry that my ignorance is showing so blatantly...

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» RE: How can I get a hair weave Posted by: JERSEYDAN
Choice
Posted by: chutzpah on Feb 21, 2007 5:00 AM   
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I believe its a matter of choice and wanting variety. All this talk about trying to be like someone else is false. Most black women alternate between wigs, weaves, and afro. We all do what makes us feel good at the moment. Or are we going to say white women are denying themselves by going under the knife to get bigger butts and fuller lips. No, it just makes them feel good about themselves.

I see it this way, all the "races" covet something from each other. I guess that's the cosmic king's/queen's way of making us realize no one has it all.

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not all black women look at hair the same way
Posted by: adomani on Feb 21, 2007 5:20 AM   
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i can appreciate the author's concern about black women loosing their identity when they wear weave or wigs. as a black woman with LONG, THICK, BUSHY hair, it was not about wanting to be white or to become another person, it was about not crying at the top of my lungs or being in so much pain when my hair was being combed! there are family stories about the drama my mother and care givers went through when it was time to comb and wash my hair. traumatic to say the least! it was not bad hair, it was good hair but the process of caring for it was painful!!!

i have added some tracks for a fuller french roll, but i have enough to let it swing down my back. reason i do not let it swing down my back is because i do not want to have to deal with hair every morning. too much work. so it is relaxed and twisted, relaxed and braided, or relaxed and worn with a pony tail of my choice (curly, or striaght). for me it is about convenience and a new look. it is NOT about wanting to be white or to take on another personality or identity.

as black women we have the freedom to do whatever we want with our appearance without being told that we are trying to be white. for me and many, many black women, this is the case. black women are confident and capable of any look without sacrificing their racial identity. in fact society is smart enough these days to know its not all natural. so if identity denial is our intention, who are we fooling???

continue your good work. much love and respect for you!

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It's a different time, finally
Posted by: xbj on Feb 21, 2007 5:38 AM   
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It is interesting that since the 1930's, when white women, emulating Hollywood, really started straightening and curling and bleaching and perming and dyeing their hair, and no one ever ascribed it to self-hatred. Now back in 1963, when nearly every black woman over a certain age had straightened hair, the author might have had a point, but then what did those attitudes lead do? 1969, when everyone, male and female, had a 'fro and no one had straightened hair unless they were over 45. A disturbing sameness.

No, I think today it's about diversity, a multitude of choices for everyone, and technology has evolved to the point where anyone can pretty much have essentially any kind and any color of hair they want. Hopefully we would never see a return to the days were 'fros were 99% of hairstyles of young black America. They were boring then because of that, and now that they're kind of rare, they're interesting and cool again, for their own worth and individuality, not because they were an essential uniform to make a statement. We need more diversity in this culture, not less.

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Peroxide Blondes
Posted by: NoPCZone on Feb 21, 2007 6:20 AM   
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I don't think it has a thing to do with all that racial identity/self loathing sh*t. A woman of color wearing a wig is little different from any other woman doing the same thing.

If I could corner the peroxide market to white women, I'd have more money than ExxonMobil.

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The point that many posters are missing...
Posted by: Peregrine on Feb 21, 2007 6:29 AM   
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...is that, unlike just about everybody else on the PLANET, the majority of black women with nappy hair, particularly outside of Africa, DO NOT and WILL NOT wear their hair in its natural texture.

Many of them believe as the poster above said: that it's too hard to care for in its natural state. But that's because they're using the wrong hair care standard, the one that we're all taught is "normal" for all hair types but is really only normal for straight hair types. Even worse, though, they're using that standard in a vacuum: Most black women with naturally nappy hair have NO CLUE how to care for their hair in its natural state because most of them have not HANDLED or even SEEN their hair since they were children. As was stated in the article, this has been going on for generations and is one of many legacies of slavery that still exist to this day.

For many black women the very thought of wearing their hair natural causes fear, shame, and anxiety. I'm pretty sure there are black women reading this right now who are feeling those feelings. Given that fear, do you really think women who wear weaves are entirely acting out of free will? How can you have true free will (not to mention self-esteem) if you're taught almost from birth that you're intrinsically ugly because of your hair texture? How can you have true self-worth if you believe that in order to be beautiful you have to go through all kinds of hoops to look like something you're not?

TRULY secure black women can hold their heads high and feel beautiful with or without a weave...and with or without a chemical relaxer.

I am a black woman who's been naturally nappy for 11 years, after having hidden behind harsh chemicals and extensions for 18 years. I am not AFRAID of or ASHAMED of my natural hair. I avoid weaves and wigs because of what they REALLY represent: the assumption that my own hair texture is something to be afraid of and ashamed of.

For those black folks who are going to come in here saying I'm militant: Oh yeah, it's REAL militant to want to wear your own God-given hair texture like everyone else on the freaking PLANET.

For the whites and others who don't understand what the big deal is: Well, yeah, that's part of the problem. You don't get it because you're trained not to see it. Some people of color will buy white privilege any way they can get it. For some women, it comes in the form of a weave, but that's only the latest offering. The psychological damage is historic, multigenerational, and ongoing.

For all people, regardless of color, who think that this is a trivial matter for Alternet to be discussing: Compared to the big picture, it is trivial. But it exists, they chose to publish this article, and it's going to be discussed.

Note to the writer: Madam CJ Walker didn't invent the pressing comb. It was invented in Europe several decades before she came on the scene.

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Style knows no color line
Posted by: harpy on Feb 21, 2007 7:22 AM   
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Since the beginning of time, women (and men) of all colors have been modifying their appearance through any means available, whether colored mud, plant dyes, tattoos, piercings, makeup, lipstick, and animal furs and bones. It was never about denying your race, but about the innate desire to do something a little different. Good grief, does everything have to be about "denial" or trying to "fit a certain mold"? Hair extensions are akin to changing outfits to suit your mood. Incidentally, permanent hair dye is considered a woman's favorite temporary accessory.

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The Politics of "Black HAIR"
Posted by: sincere on Feb 21, 2007 9:06 AM   
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whoa. wasn't expecting anything like this out of alternet. you usually only see a post like this on blogs/pages distinctly tailored for black issues. kudos.

yet about the only decent and thought-provoking post on here thus far is by Peregrine (above). very well said, without fear or regret about delving into what has long been a much-talked about (and yet taboo) topic in the black community. now as a black male, i stay *far and wide* away from any topic dealing with black women and the social politics of hair. it's a very sensitive one, not many what side one takes, and i figure black women can deal with that issue however/whenever they choose to deal with it (individually or collectively) without my inteference. as it's not something i have to deal with, it's also none of my business. that being said, it is amazing (as always on alternet) to read how many white posters who are absolutely *clueless* about this long-time issue within the black community/diaspora, jump in and give their more than 2 cents worth. the ability of some to wax on philosophically (usually trying to deny the existence of the issue, as if black people *have not* been having several decades of debates/conversations/etc. on the very topic) of something they know zip/zilch about speaks to the astounding heights that arrogance can reach.

Sin

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not trivial
Posted by: tangerine on Feb 21, 2007 9:28 AM   
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This is another way to keep women in chains, make them too insecure about themselves to be able to affect positive change in the world. If we are spending all this time and money worrying about our hair, where is the time to work on things that really matter? If we have a negative image of ourselves in our natural state we will be forever second guessing ourselves. As a woman of middle eastern descent, I have "too much" body hair. I am forever shaving, waxing, laser burning myself to achieve a "feminine" look. In my natural state I am: unfeminine, gross, disgusting. We need to reexamine why we are doing these painful things to ourselves in order to fit into some cultural ideal of what a woman looks like. We need to reclaim our beauty and our power on our own terms. This is completely different from a brunette dying her hair blond, or a man wearing a suit and tie, because they are not afraid to be seen in public in their natural state.

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The more things seem to change...
Posted by: shahzhi on Feb 21, 2007 9:39 AM   
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While I would agree that humans have always enjoyed altering and enhancing their appearance, there can be multiple motivations for any changes made to the human form. Some motivating factors are obvious and practical, but many are unconscious, or the result of history and customs whose origins are unknown. Sometimes changes are made so as to stand apart from others, but in this instance, the author made a comment that has shown this not to be the case (at least in St. Louis). She notes in the third paragraph that almost all of the women she encountered were following the same style choice when it came to hair. I can say that I've noticed this same hairstyle trend in Philadelphia. Styles and trends take hold when people feel free to express themselves, and that's fine. It would be rather dull if we never altered our appearance. However, I believe that the author is questioning the hidden motivating factors behind black women and our hair and the fact that the past and current influence of the "dominant" culture of this country cannot be discounted when considering black folks' self-concept about hair (or skin for that matter). I would love to say that we are simply expressing ourselves, if it weren't for comments I have heard said to me and others for years: "if you straightened your hair, it would be long - why don't you?" (when asked why I should do so, they could never give me an answer); "you need to do something about your nappy hair" (the hair was obviously styled, it just wasn't straight or long); "she /he has good hair", and so on.
Motivations, if to be really understood, need to be seen in the context of power struggles and history and psychology. I think that it is easier and more comfortable for people not to dwell too long on the "why" of what they do.

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History
Posted by: fredo1012 on Feb 21, 2007 10:58 AM   
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Great article, but I don't think having a straight, curly, braids, locks, weaves, threadmatt, or whatever hair styles, compromises Black or African identity. Let's be faithful to history and perhaps really appreciate the blessing of our marvelous and resilient skin and hair. Ours is perhaps the only race with the most amenable hair tissue. Paintings and drawings dating back to ancient times in written history, show African and African-descent women spotting a variety of styles. I once was helper to a powerful traditional healer in Africa, and still remember the herbs and natural oils that she would prescribe for damagged hair or even basic amelioration. Across villages in Africa, there are women who are either suspicious of Western chemicals or cannot afford them, who rather rely on these traditional oils and herbs (call them, "native chemicals") for their hair styling needs. The same goes for nail and lip enhancement, facial makeup, and other multidinous cosmetics/accoutrements women and even men have craved for generations. For me, the issue is not the loss of identity, but the quality of care we render to our bodies.

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Changing Your Persona
Posted by: Amaliada on Feb 21, 2007 11:24 AM   
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There are lots of ways to change one's persona. As an African American woman living in rural Greece I found just changing the name that people called me by helped me find a new persona. It is different living in a culture where you are the only African American woman (there is an Ethiopian woman in the next village and we've, of course, become friends). There was no one to take care of my hair and I wasn't traveling four hours to Athens to get it done. So I grew locks that I can take care of myself and I find that the length of the locks now, allows me to toss my hair around. Very fun!

But just being called by a new name has been very liberating. While I am a lot of fun, Caroline (my new name) is even more fun and is not afraid to make a fool of herself communicating in a new language with only partial skills. The language of a smile triumphs daily but the new persona certainly made getting used to my new surroundings easier.

I can't think of a single black celebrity who has natural black hair, with the exception of the Sudanese model, Alex Wek. Are there any others? So, of course, American black women want to look like the women modeling sexy, cool, etc. And they're all wearing weaves or wigs.

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Loved Afros
Posted by: scajomar on Feb 21, 2007 12:42 PM   
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I'm a white woman, 54, who remembers when Afros were in style. I felt then, and still feel now, that the Afro style offered the white world a peek at the natural beauty afforded people with black skin, a kind of beauty we white women could never have without our own Afro wig. I thought the wearing of the Afro style by black American women (especially women) empowered them, united them, set them apart from whites, and freed them from White Girl Wannabeism.

Maybe some of you remember Whoopi Goldberg's impersonation of the little girl wearing a shirt on her head and pretending it was her "long luxurious blonde hair." My heart broke for that little girl, trying to find her identity in a white world. I watched her and thought, "Don't worry, little girl, you'll grow up and find out how beautiful you really are." I fully expected her to grow an Afro and wear it proudly.

My hair? Boy short, silver and steel. I am truly a handsome woman. I feel sorry for other women my age trying to hang on to "beauty" as part of a province in which they no longer live. I know it's a cliche, but beauty starts from within the person and radiates outward. Our entire species would be saner if we were to instill that attitude into girls, rather than blast them with notions of "beauty" that sell products and feed on women's tendency to feel and act like inferior creatures.

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It's the hair weaves that are making us feel bad?
Posted by: Callibrarian on Feb 21, 2007 12:49 PM   
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And all this time I thought it had something to do with the fact that FEW of the black women I see on TV are CLOTHED! Oprah aside, when you see a black woman on TV she's either grossly obese and essentially neutered, or she's the scantily clad woman dancing in a music video. Of all the videos I flipped through this weekend, the only on in which a black woman wasn't treated like a slab of meat by the male singer was Robin Thicke's video, and it doesn't really count because the woman on screen is his wife! Forget hair. Anyone can get hair. Back in my cheer competition days even the white girls got hair so we would look uniform. What would make me feel better is women who have enough clothes on that they would actually get served at McDonalds, real film roles, better job and educational opportunities in our segregated neighborhoods, and better representation.

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Say It Loud; I'm Black and I'm Proud
Posted by: Niche on Feb 21, 2007 1:04 PM   
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I saw Venus Opal Reese's show a few weeks ago and I loved that you quoted the line from her drag skit about "being a woman is a performance". I wear my natural in a short fro, and sometimes people assume I am a lesbian (not that anything is wrong with that). For years, I had my hair permed and I llok back at those old pictures and they so dated.

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By Their Weave..Ye Shall Know Them.??? Noooooo Way....
Posted by: ekipnrut on Feb 21, 2007 4:28 PM   
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The article,which I understand to have been scheduled for publication in the highly regarded peer reviewed Journal of Self Hate Psychoses and Delerium Studies has been
submitted to me for a bit of blue pencil editing. One should
substitute for the emboldened material the parenthetically
enclosed material immediately following. ek

Rather, these long weaves may reflect our desire to try on a different feminine persona that has historically been appropriated for white women. ( to ape the obviously different persona that arises from the physically distinctive features of white women)

Throughout time, weaves and wigs have served as costumes for black women to put on when they want to look sexy (like what white racism has sytematically programmed them to think of as sexy...namely whites), Her point was to show that by wearing weaves and wigs, black women are dressing up in their own drag, whereby they can become the type of woman they aren't otherwise expected to be. (to indulge in the sickness of cognitively dissonant self debasement) Black women weaving up has so much to do with our need to feelfeminine and strong at different points in our lives(that by doing so we some
how become white women ... the genuine repositories of femininity and strength..which we all know to be complete nonsense, but such is the power of racist cultural/psychological control)
In a world where black women are constantly blunted by racial and sexual discrimination, it makes sense
(no sense whatsoever) that we'd begin adopting counter-representations of ourselves.(self destructive behavior mocking our ancestry and trumpeting ridicule)

That's what the wig did for me. It gave me the freedom to be aloof, to flirt and to smile without fear of not receiving smiles in return.
I made several outings with the wig. During one trip, I went to a mall. The weave made my confidence soar. Heading there, I drove faster than usual. And every time I reached to pick up my cell phone, I dramatically tossed my hair back and said "Haloh!" roaring and perky like a valley girl. I was ready to explode onto the mall scene and attract all kinds of men.
my hair swooshed about my face and I loved it.
I believed I could seduce with my hair without thinking men wouldn't return my vibes because I was too black. Whatever that feeling -- call it femininity if you like -- I had more of it.
(only someone completely adrift in a sea of self loathing and delusion could possibly call this phenomenom anything other than what it is :PATHETIC SELF HATE.PERIOD)

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Don't complain about your nappy hair...
Posted by: JERSEYDAN on Feb 21, 2007 5:43 PM   
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when 35 million of us are losing ours and would be happy with any kind of hair. Worse, men are savaged brutally for trying to wear hairpieces or subjecting themselves to surgery all because pattern baldness is "unsexy". Don't talk to me about Michael Jordan; he's an anomaly, and darker skinned folks get away with the head shave much easier because their natural hair has less contrast with their skin tone. Hence they don't have a perpetual 5 oclock shadow effect like most of us white dudes. To boot, millions of women suffer from hair loss, usually after menopause but it can start earlier. In men 20 percent are losing their hair in their late teens and early 20's. Normal folks have their appearance radically altered by baldness and are often the subject of ridicule, which is really stupid; we don't do this to people who go gray. Just pointing out the double standard that exists; women can wear all sorts of fake wigs, nails, makeup etc but a man who tries to replace something that he has lost is considered vain, to the point that Joe Biden's hair transplant ( to cover a surgical scar from brain aneurysm surgery ) is considered evidence of his vanity. ( there are other reasons Biden is an asshole, but this shouldn't be one of them )

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Wherever your hair goes, there you are
Posted by: UppityNegroUK on Feb 22, 2007 12:57 AM   
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True, black women have always innovated with their style, but I wouldn't paint wigs and weaves with such an optimistic brush. After all, the wig has to come off sometime and the weaves comes out (often at inopportune, public times---I've seen it crawling down someone's back!). Once it does, what happens then? If you've spent all this time faking being someone else, who are you then? I'll stick with my natural hair, thanks.

Also, I'm curious, what's it like for a love to run his/her fingers through this synthetic, horsehair mess? Is it like feeling fake tits? Sure, the article's about black women's self-esteem, but what happens to that esteem when your lover's like, "Dang, baby, what happened to your hair?"

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losing hair
Posted by: karyse on Feb 22, 2007 5:34 AM   
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I'll be losing all my hair soon. Of all the side effects of chemo, this is one I worry about -- not that it'll all be gone, but that it might (will probably) come back curly. I've always had straight hair, and after the age of thirty-five, cut short. It's salt and pepper now and I quit coloring it about ten years ago and let it just be.

The thing is, I like it the way it is, even though I opted for a wig cut the same way, but a different color -- just for fun and because it didn't make sense to try to hide my hair loss from friends.

If my hair comes back nappy, which it does for some chemo patients, I will probably be horrified, not because I don't like it on people who are naturally that way, (in fact, I am always impressed with black women who opt for their natural hair and I find them beautiful as well as gutsy for not following societies dictates on what it means to be "beautiful.")

Anyway, that's my two cents.

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Hair Weavs
Posted by: TuTu on Feb 22, 2007 7:31 AM   
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As an AA woman, I wear my hair in all types of styles. I wear braids, I wear my hair permed and flat iron or pulled back into a french roll. I almost always have a perm because it is easier to deal with. But honestly, I love my hair, I feel very attractive with any of these hair styles. As I love the fact that I can change things up now and then. I love having a different look or style. However my look or style does not define me, I am the same person even when my hair style changes.

Secondly people of all races get hair weaves and wear wigs. White celebrities wear weaves all the time. As a woman is about feeling good, and doing your thing.

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» RE: Hair Weavs Posted by: Isome
Internal Psychological Issues Of Black Women
Posted by: Lesha on Feb 22, 2007 1:35 PM   
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For women who have naturally strait or wavy hair, extensions or weaves maybe more acceptable especially if they are experiencing some type of hair loss or have been in a accident that may call for it.


Hair weaves, extensions and especially chemical base hair straighteners have a totally different meaning when it involves black women. From the time blacks have been in this country up untill today, white women were and still are the standard of beauty today for all women. The hair weave/straightener phenomenon took over 400 years to develop into its current situation. From the days were black women served as nannies to white women up untill today, their infatuation with white beauty has grown over the years with each coming generation becoming more entrenched with this ignorant way of thinking.

These hair straightening products are UN-CONSCIOUSLY used by black women to strictly copy white women as best they can not to mention the wearing of alien blue or green eyed contact lenses to combine with their newly found hair (how pathetic).
In some cases you may even see some of the darkest black women with dyed blond hair and blue contact lenses. The following is the apex of confusion.


The following along with plenty of MAKE-UP can help these poor souls feed their delusions of being something other than themselves. Also as long as black men do not take charge of themselves to help clean up and guide their women to the level of respectability, these problems will continue to persist to UN-reasonable levels. The following to some degree will always exit as long as blacks live in white ruled societies but on the other hand the problem can be greatly reduce with some type of self awareness.

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ANTI FUN
Posted by: gellero on Feb 22, 2007 3:57 PM   
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You are all the anti-fun neo cons. Let's ban dancing and card playing too.

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Who Cares????
Posted by: TruthBeTold on Feb 22, 2007 5:55 PM   
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As a 65 year retired professional black woman who has worn her hair in many styles over the years, never did I consider that it would be a loss of identify to change hair style. My identify came from my educational and professional achievements, not my hair style. Women, (white, black, green) change hair styles, including wearing wigs, for many reasons, from wanting a different look to wearing wigs because of hair loss from medical conditions, cancer treatments, aging, etc.

Frankly, I don't care if black women straighten their hair, apply weaves, go natural or shave their heads. As of today, 2/22/07, 3,151 American soldiers have died in Iraq, more that 24,000 have been wounded and maimed, Iraqi women and children have been killed, and we have a un-elected president who very well may institute martial law. This is what all of us should be more concerned about that what type of hair style black women, or any woman, chooses to wear.

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real human hair
Posted by: carbon paradise on Feb 23, 2007 2:48 PM   
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On a slightly different topic, I often wonder why more people don't stop to inquire if the hair in the weave they're sporting was procured by ethical means. If the label says "real human hair" one has to assume that it came from a real human. Think of the women in developing countries who making shave their hair for money (the amount paid is far far less than what the hair is actually worth on the retail market) or as a pious sacrifice. I would feel very uncomfortable knowing that I am wearing the hair of a women who gave it up so that her gods would give her luck or because she had few other options to support her family. What gives me the right to support a system that takes away the crowning glory of a women who has much less than I do as a relatively affluent western women for my own selfish vanity? Don't I have enough?

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the obvious
Posted by: kathat on Feb 24, 2007 10:13 AM   
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Women always want to change their hair...it doesn't matter what race they are. If they have curly hair they want straight and vice versa.
Also I don't see black women with extentions as trying to look white...hello?? How do they look white?? They look like beautiful black women.
I think most women just want to look their best and try different styles all the time.
You can't talk about black women trying to straighten their hair, without talking about white women trying to perm theirs either.
I don't see the value of thinking because you wear your hair 'au natural', you are somehow more black then the other girl. It seems to me being able to do what you dam well please is the key.

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What black women say
Posted by: erichoffer on Feb 25, 2007 7:59 AM   
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I found it interesting to read what black women had to say on this subject. And the majority said this is what they like to do. Older women, younger women all basically agree.

To those who say this is about self hatred maybe you should start listening to the women, the actual people to whom this article is referring and stop projecting your paranoid perspective. Talk about out of touch.

What I got from this article was the quote; laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone. Or something like that. When a person feels good about themselves others respond in a positive way. Makes sense.

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black hair and wigs
Posted by: pbrown on Feb 25, 2007 10:07 PM   
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after 4 yrs of wearing my hair kinky, braided,froed,and pressed .I permed my hair to have it fall out 3 mos later!!I now have 7 wigs.short, long ,red ,brown, black, curly ,and straight.I am having the time of my life!!!Yes I take the wigs off and wear the 1/2 inch fro too,but I can look like so many different women(NONE OF THEM WHITE)It's the most fun i have had in years and its so easy!!!

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HAIRSTYLES REFLECT POSITIVE ETHNIC GROUP VARIATIONS
Posted by: BLUECLOUD on Mar 4, 2007 7:08 PM   
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I EXPERIENCED A SAD EMOTIONAL RESPONSE TO THE ARTICLE ABOUT HAIR WEAVES AND BLACK WOMEN (2/21/07). MY CONCERN IS THAT WOMEN OF AFRICAN AMERICAN HERITAGE WERE COMPARED TO EUROPEAN WOMEN. WHEN OUR BEHAVIORS ARE ANALYZED, WITH EUROPEAN STANDARDS,THE OUTCOME WILL ALWAYS YIELD, A PERCEPTION ,THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG ,WITH OUR PSYCHES.

WE ARE A BEAUTIFUL RAINBOW OF SIZES,SHAPES SKIN COMPLEXIONS...AND HAIR TEXTURES. OUR CREATIVITY, HAS ENABLED US TO DESIGN STRAIGHT OR CURLY NATURAL HAIRSTYLES, TO MANY LEVELS OF ARTISTIC BEAUTY. MANY OF US ,HAVE MADE DECISIONS ,TO STYLE OUR HAIR,BY CHANGING THE NATURAL CURL PATTERN.

THAT APPROACH,BY PSYCHOLOGICALLY HEALTHY WOMEN, DOES NOT REFLECT A DESIRE TO MODEL ANOTHER ETHNIC GROUP.

OFTEN,WE ARE UNAWARE OF HOW TO CORRECTLY COMB,STYLE, AND CARE, FOR OUR CURLS. THAT LIMITATION ,OF KNOWLEDGE ,DOES NOT ALTER THE CORE OF OUR CULTURAL GROUP PRIDE. MOST OF US SHARE A FIRM, POSITIVE, SENSE OF OUR ETHNICITY.

CHANGING HAIRSTYLES,DOES NOT CHANGE THE PERSON WITHIN. THERE ARE MANY GRANDMOTHERS,MOTHERS,SISTERS, AUNTS,DAUGHTERS,AND EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBERS,IN BLACK AMERICA,WITH VERY HEALTHY SELF IMAGES...AND MANY HAIRSTYLE VARIATIONS.

I HAVE WORN MY NATURAL CURLS,THROUGHOUT MY ADOLESCENT AND ADULT YEARS. HOWEVER,DURING MY CHILDHOOD,MY NATURAL HAIR WAS STRAIGHTENED, STYLED IN LONG BRAIDS,AND ADORNED WITH RIBBONS. MY MOTHER CERTAINLY WAS NOT TRYING TO MAKE ME ,"WHITE". I VERY PROUDLY ACKNOWLEDGE, THE NUMBER OF HOURS OF EXCELLENT CARE, THAT MY MOTHER DIRECTED, TOWARDS STYLING MY HAIR. THOSE EVENTS REINFORCED A GREAT SENSE OF PRIDE,IN MY PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

MY SELF ESTEEM,LIKE THAT OF MANY AFRICA AMERICANS,WAS SHAPED BY THE INFLUENCE OF STRONG,POSITIVE,AND ECONOMICALLY STABLE PARENTS.
LET'S TAKE CARE, NOT TO STEREOTYPE OR NEGATE, THE SELF IMAGES OF AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN,BASED ON PERCEPTIONS OF HAIRSTYLES.

OUR TRAUMATIC HISTORY OF SLAVERY,WILL CONTINUE TO CAUSE US TO REDEFINE AND RESHAPE OUR LIVES,IN AMERICA. WE HAVE A UNIQUE STYLE. IT ENCOMPASSES OUR AFRICAN BEAUTY AND REFLECTS THE MANY BLOODLINES,THAT MANY OF US SHARE.

WE ARE NOT, DAMAGED IMITATIONS,OF EUROPEANS.!!!. MOST OTHER CULTURES ,MODEL OUR UNIQUE ABILITIES.

IF ANY AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN, EXPERIENCES SELF LIBERATION...BY PUTTING ON A STRAIGHT HAIR WIG OR WEAVE, THAT RESPONSE, HAS VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH A HAIR STYLE. THAT SIGNALS A PROBLEM ,OF SELF ESTEEM,THAT EXTENDS FAR BEYOND OUTWARD PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

PSYCHOLOGICALLY HEALTHY AFRICAN- AMERICAN WOMEN, DO NOT DEVELOP A NEW SENSE OF SELF...FOLLOWING A VISIT TO A HAIR SALON!!!!.

SELF ESTEEM CONCERNS ,AND ETHNIC GROUP ATTITUDES, ARE NOT THE SAME ISSUES. THE FORMER RELATES TO PERSONAL IDENTITY, THAT DEVELOPS FROM EARLY ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS. ETHNIC GROUP AWARENESS DEVELOPS FROM HOME,COMMUNITY, AND CULTURAL LIFE EXPERIENCES.

CULTURALLY POSITIVELY WORLD VIEWS, MAY EXIST IN THE MINDS OF AFRICAN AMERICANS, WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM. THE OPPOSITE MAY ALSO BE TRUE. THAT IS ESPECIALLY OBSERVABLE WITH BLACK AMERICANS, WHO HAVE LIMITED EXPOSURE, TO AFRICAN HISTORY. WE ARE INDEED, MEMBERS OF A VERY COMPLEX GROUP...THE HUMAN FAMILY.

A CHANGE IN SELF ESTEEM,BASED ON THE USE OF WIGS OR WEAVES,( NOT RELATED TO PHYSICAL ILLNESS), HAS A VERY SIGNIFICANT MEANING,FOR ANY WOMAN,IN OUR COMMUNITY. THAT TYPE OF RESPONSE, SIGNALS PROBLEMS WITH SELF WORTH. IN THAT SITUATION -A CONVERSATION ,WITH MORE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN, WOULD BE BENEFICIAL.

THAT SOLUTION,WOULD HAVE A FAR GREATER INFLUENCE, THAN ANY CHANGE IN HAIRSTYLE ...IT WOULD BE EDUCATIONAL AND PRICELESS.


ANOTHER POINT OF VIEW

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